I really hope I don't regret this....

A very good friend of mine once gave me these pearls of wisdom, forever engraved in my heart:

"DUDE...don't ever settle for less! Guys will get complacent and stop trying. You have to milk it when you can."

Well, that's the gist of how I remember it.

This was part of our conversation discussing ideal wedding rings

and the minimum rock size we wanted.

(I know, I'm already saying too much.)

Anyhow, she was only responding to little Sarah's response:

"I don't care how big the rock is, I care more about the design.

As long as it's 1 carat (cause that's normal right?)

We can always upgrade after we've built our life/made some monies together."

Oh me...

Now that I'm a little older and maybe it's because I'm surrounded by people who are getting married, recently married (within their first 5-10 years of marriage) or thinking about it,

I notice that everyone wears their engagement ring and I have come to this conclusion:

(I really hope I don't regret this.)

I don't want an engagement ring. The more and more I think about it, the more convinced I am of this decision.

Don't get me wrong. I love fine jewelry but it just, all of a sudden, seems .....

frivolous?

I'm not sure...but it has suddenly lost all appeal.

Pictured above was my dream wedding ring, one which I had pictured in my head.

A diamond on yellow gold, rope-like band.

And get this. It found me. No joke.

Sounds like a damn love story, huh?

I was in the David Yurman store with Mom when I stumbled across the ring I thought my future hubby would have to get custom made, at which point I proceeded to make it known to my mom, sister and father.

Anyhow, I know I run the risk of changing my mind, having the future hubby present me with a band when he proposes and a printout of this exact post, in case I pull out the passive-aggressive "why didn't I get an engagement ring" move in what should be one of the happier times of my life.

We shall see but if that is the case, I'm coming back to this exact post and not deleting it, but crossing out every single word.